Wednesday, April 1, 2015

A Glimmer of Hope and a Long Dark Tunnel





Are you in love with your significant other?  Do they make you feel safe?  Loved?  Cherished? Respected?  Honored?  Adored?  If you can answer yes to those questions, count yourself blessed.  

Marriage is hard.  It takes a lot of work, patience and communication.  But for some, it is not as simple as work, patience and communication.  For some it is a matter of fighting for their life.  Fighting to keep their head above water.  Refusing to drown under the weight of a hardened individual.  

Are you aware of the consequences a woman might face when she finally musters up the strength to leave an abusive situation?  Many are unaware. Here are just a few:

  • Fear of retaliation of the abuser by numerous means.
  • Emptying of bank account
  • Refusal to pay bills
  • Threatening to take children away
  • Stalking
  • Left with no financial way to care for children
  • Harassment from abuser
  • Destroyed credit issues leaving the victim with no means to purchase a car, rent a home, open a new bank account
  • Continued emotional and verbal abuse
  • Created alienation of those in victims life
  1. Rejection by friends
  2. Rejection by family
  3. Rejection by church


Much is involved but be certain of this, it takes great amounts of courage and strength for one to stand and say, “I am valuable and I will not take the abuse any longer” as they finally make the choice to leave.  

These tactics of abuse happens every day.  And the majority of women taking the step to leave the abuse are doing so without the support of their family, friends, and church family. They are alone, scared and left to fight for the welfare of their children without the proper support and resources.  It is terrifying.

Add to the stress of leaving, the of lack of support within our judicial system.  Are you aware if you commit a crime that could carry possible jail time in the United States, our court system will appoint you an attorney if you cannot afford one?  Are you aware that a woman who has been a stay at home mom for her children with no financial means available after leaving an abusive situation is expected to provide for her own attorney? She is allowed to stand before a judge on her own while the abuser, who has the necessary and available funds, who may even have more than one attorney, fights against her.  Our system allows this to take place every day.   Criminals are represented while innocent victims of abuse must fight for themselves and the well being of their children alone against the oppressor in their life.

It is so unfair and sickening.  The damage being done to the children in our country because of the “rights of a parent” is absurd and disgusting.  My passion is to see it changed.  To do something to change it but it cannot be done alone. Thankfully it begins with baby steps. 

God has given me the amazing privilege of working with an incredible ministry.  A ministry that walks alongside women and their babies left stranded and who need help getting back on their feet. 

Supporting women with broken wings who are crushed by years of abuse and needing to be healed by God’s love.  We are a team of women who experienced the issues above in a personal way and want to be the hands and feet of Jesus to these broken women.

I accept that many will never understand the pain others suffer. I accept that unless some things happen to you personally, it's hard to acknowledge and understand the hurt it causes to others. Sometimes we need to step back and realize people are hurting. But not only hurting, suffering. They need to be rescued. They need the assurance that someone cares and loves them. They need their broken wings healed. They need HOPE. Will you please visit Give Her Wings and consider supporting our April mama?  Whether through prayers or financial support, we need your help. Will you help us in offering a precious mama and her babies hope today?  Will you walk with us as we minister to those who need the love of Jesus poured over them?

I ask you to pray about how you can be a part of this great ministry.  What simple things could you give up in order to help a mama and her babies put food on their table, electricity in their home, or even shoes on their feet?

*Would you be willing to give up one visit to Starbucks each week and donate that amount monthly?

*Would you be willing to eat out one less time each month and donate that amount?

Please visit GiveHerWings.com and read some of the precious notes from the mama’s who have already been helped through this ministry and read more about what it is we do as well as the heartbreaking story of our April Mama.